FRIENDS AND ANGELS

“Friends and Angels”
By: Jon
Mar 18, 2005 12:49 AM
My Flat, Makati








There are times in your life that you feel the world have played an unfair game on you. Moments where predicaments and hopelessness are dwelling in your head and in your heart. Times that you blame a person for breaking your precious heart or taking away that part of your life that you love so much. You ask yourself, how could I've let that happen to me? Or how could that person do such a thing that hurts me so much? Well sometimes really the worst thing that could hurt us most is the person that we love so dearly. Let's not forget all the external things that cause us irritation, frustration, depression and anger. May it be a jerk of a boss, an unfulfilling career, a bitch of a client or a customer that can pass for a jackass? There are a zillion lists to cause these, but I'd rather stop at that to prevent a headache.

But one thing for sure, there is always a “light” at the end of the tunnel. That light may not be in a form of an object or a written solution, but in the human form. Let me now have this chance to express my appreciation for having friends who compensate and turns over that dreaded feeling into something more cheerful and happy.

At the end of all those troubles, you have friends who uplift your sorrows and put a smile on your face. That's even an understatement, coz really they make you laugh that it hurts your face. Who said you cannot see “angels?” I think I've met them and they are my “friends.” I was told that angels guide you, protect you and make you smile. I am sure that my friends do the same.. So thank you God for bringing them into my life.

I may not have told you guys this, but you are making my life worthwhile. Easier that the pain of the troubles are becoming lesser. In fact, going away. I don't believe in coincidences. So for what this is worth? I know God has a very good reason for letting all of us meet…

Though we have our own shortcomings, I think it is just right, as our unique personalities complement each other. Reasons that we clicked? I think this is one of them..

“Vacillations”
By: Jon
Mar 21, 2005 4:30 pm
Confusion, Makati City

Have you ever fallen in love and ended it? I think that is one of the most difficult parts of every person's life. Sad that a couple have to part ways, coz the relationship is not working out. Even if you are sure that you both still love each other. I'm sure you're going to say, “why not work it out?” Work it out because you still love each other?... Don't get me wrong, but what I'm trying to say is that ending the relationship because you've exhausted all possible ways and means to work it out. But you guys still ended hurting each other and failing to hold it together.

After realizing how bad the person is in your life or the other person doesn't love you that much anymore. You still vacillate thinking that you guys can still be together and live happily ever after. And so you'd do the stupidest thing in the world and come up to the person, swallowing your pride and all to ask that person to try it again. Romantic as that may sound, but after a number of moments, you'd say: “what the hell was I thinking?”

That is basically all right. Don't treat yourself bad coz you are not the only one doing it. A lot of people go through the same ordeal, especially those who have loved so deep and so strong.

I guess those people do that because they are in love with the thought of “Love?” Holding on to the essence of having someone, a partner, and a lover. Blinded by the fact that that someone is not the right one for them. Or probably it is because those people cannot handle the thought of being alone. They cannot enjoy life with just their self that they need to be with someone. Having a partner that will witness the life they have, as they cannot appreciate what they're capable of or seeing their own achievements. I think that's a wrong reason to enter into a relationship.

Well that's one side. Vacillations happen partly because we become obsessive to the habits we've built with that person. Our lives have suddenly reached a turning point that we feel lost in the world because of the “big” change. We cannot seem to move or do things without the other person. It is difficult but true. Habits are a very hard thing to break. So it takes a lot of courage and determination to move on and realize that that chapter of our life has concluded.

So the next time you feel this, make an extra effort to rethink. What was the reason why the relationship has ended? Try to re-live your life with that person and think through if it’s going to be a happy life given all the circumstances. I'm sure if that thinking doesn't succeed, you are entering into a delusional state. Where you think everything will work out just fine. Remember that is what's on your mind, and that is how you think. But it may not be the same with the other person. You don't control the situation; especially you cannot control the one you love. On how they'll act or how they'll think. Best thing you can do is accepting the fact that it ended. Be ready, and begin the new chapter of your life, which you have to take.

Love is such a great feeling. I think one of our purposes in this life is to have and share that. But given the bad and awful circumstances, “Love would never be enough.” There should be a compromise, understanding, respect, sharing and a common goal that let's you grow as a couple and as an individual...

Confusion and delusion leads to vacillations.. Try hard to see through reality and fantasy. Experience gives the best lessons in the world. It’s all right to hope, hoping that a person changes for the better and for your gain. But character takes time to mold. A person's stained character is difficult to bleach. And at worst, will be forever instilled with her/him. Be thankful should that stained character be positively changed. That will be the best consolation you can ever achieve. Not just for yourself but for the other person as well. Always remember what you've learned and gained. Because it will serve you right every time.

We are all hopeless romantics by heart but some things are really hopeless for the right reasons. Ingrain that in the heart and mind. Because once the heart and mind is in synch, that's the moment you should realize you are right...

“Vacillations”
By: Jon
Mar 21, 2005 4:30 pm
Confusion, Makati City

Have you ever fallen in love and ended it? I think that is one of the most difficult parts of every person's life. Sad that a couple have to part ways, coz the relationship is not working out. Even if you are sure that you both still love each other. I'm sure you're going to say, “why not work it out?” Work it out because you still love each other?... Don't get me wrong, but what I'm trying to say is that ending the relationship because you've exhausted all possible ways and means to work it out. But you guys still ended hurting each other and failing to hold it together.

After realizing how bad the person is in your life or the other person doesn't love you that much anymore. You still vacillate thinking that you guys can still be together and live happily ever after. And so you'd do the stupidest thing in the world and come up to the person, swallowing your pride and all to ask that person to try it again. Romantic as that may sound, but after a number of moments, you'd say: “what the hell was I thinking?”

That is basically all right. Don't treat yourself bad coz you are not the only one doing it. A lot of people go through the same ordeal, especially those who have loved so deep and so strong.

I guess those people do that because they are in love with the thought of “Love?” Holding on to the essence of having someone, a partner, and a lover. Blinded by the fact that that someone is not the right one for them. Or probably it is because those people cannot handle the thought of being alone. They cannot enjoy life with just their self that they need to be with someone. Having a partner that will witness the life they have, as they cannot appreciate what they're capable of or seeing their own achievements. I think that's a wrong reason to enter into a relationship.

Well that's one side. Vacillations happen partly because we become obsessive to the habits we've built with that person. Our lives have suddenly reached a turning point that we feel lost in the world because of the “big” change. We cannot seem to move or do things without the other person. It is difficult but true. Habits are a very hard thing to break. So it takes a lot of courage and determination to move on and realize that that chapter of our life has concluded.

So the next time you feel this, make an extra effort to rethink. What was the reason why the relationship has ended? Try to re-live your life with that person and think through if it’s going to be a happy life given all the circumstances. I'm sure if that thinking doesn't succeed, you are entering into a delusional state. Where you think everything will work out just fine. Remember that is what's on your mind, and that is how you think. But it may not be the same with the other person. You don't control the situation; especially you cannot control the one you love. On how they'll act or how they'll think. Best thing you can do is accepting the fact that it ended. Be ready, and begin the new chapter of your life, which you have to take.

Love is such a great feeling. I think one of our purposes in this life is to have and share that. But given the bad and awful circumstances, “Love would never be enough.” There should be a compromise, understanding, respect, sharing and a common goal that let's you grow as a couple and as an individual...

Confusion and delusion leads to vacillations.. Try hard to see through reality and fantasy. Experience gives the best lessons in the world. It’s all right to hope, hoping that a person changes for the better and for your gain. But character takes time to mold. A person's stained character is difficult to bleach. And at worst, will be forever instilled with her/him. Be thankful should that stained character be positively changed. That will be the best consolation you can ever achieve. Not just for yourself but for the other person as well. Always remember what you've learned and gained. Because it will serve you right every time.

We are all hopeless romantics by heart but some things are really hopeless for the right reasons. Ingrain that in the heart and mind. Because once the heart and mind is in synch, that's the moment you should realize you are right...