Tuesday, September 13, 2005

(Everybody's Free To) Wear Sunscreen


(Everybody's Free To) Wear Sunscreen
Mary Schmich( newspaper columnist with the Chicago Tribune )

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth.

Oh, never mind.
You will not understand the powerand beauty of your youth until they've faded.
But trust me, in 20 years,
you'll look back at photos ofyourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked.

You are not as fat as you imagine.

Don't worry about the future.
Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective astrying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum.

The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind,
the kind that blindside you at 4 pm on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing every day that scares you.

Sing.

Don't be reckless with other people's hearts.
Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Floss.

Don't waste your time on jealousy.
Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind.
The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.
Remember compliments you receive.

Forget the insults.

If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters.
Throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch.

Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life.
The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives.
Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't.

Get plenty of calcium.

Be kind to your knees.
You'll miss them when they're gone.

Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't.
Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't.
Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funkychicken on your 75th wedding anniversary.

Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either.
Your choices are half chance.
So are everybody else's.

Enjoy your body.

Use it every way you can.
Don't be afraid of it or of what other people think of it.
It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.

Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.

Read the directions,
even if you don't follow them.

Do not read beauty magazines.
They will only make you feel ugly.

Get to know your parents.
You never know when they'll be gone for good.

Be nice to your siblings.
They're your best link to your past and the peoplemost likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on.

Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle,
because the older you get,
the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.

Live in New York City once,
but leave before itmakes you hard.

Live in Northern California once,
but leave before it makes you soft.


Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths:

Prices will rise.
Politicians will philander.
You, too, will get old.
And when you do,
you'll fantasize that when youwere young,
prices were reasonable,
politicians were noble,
and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don't expect anyone else to support you.
Maybe you have a trust fund.
Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse.
But you never know when either one might run out.

Don't mess too much with your hair or by the time you're 40 it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it.
Advice is a form of nostalgia.
Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal,
wiping it off,
painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen.

Monday, September 12, 2005

Quicksand in Heaven


Quicksand in Heaven
By: Jon
August 2005


Standing still, my Feet rested in the sand
The weight of my body pulls me down,
Sinking me as the hours turn and the sun moves above
I must shift, I must try to stir
I don’t want to sink; I want to hold your hand

The landscape captivates my sight
Its magnificent pallid sand covers the shore
The sky, the ocean, grandly cerulean
The foliage dances and moves with the breeze
I marvel at this majestic spectacle

There you are standing at the backdrop
Ever so beautiful, ever so adorable, wearing that white gown
A face of an angel is what I see
You exude love and nurture¸ you make me calm
Please let me embrace you one last time

You smile, you seem very happy
I can see you’re content and pleased
You love this place;
It gives you peace and serenity
Take me with you; let me have what you have

I cannot move, I am frozen in this searing place
I want to reach you, you’re just so near
Why can’t you see me? Why can’t you take a glance?
Please help me stop the sinking
Help me; I need you to help me

Do not go! Do not leave!
Its okay, let me just look
If I can’t hold you, I am fine looking at you
Don’t disappear at my sight,
Don’t make me sad

I don’t want to sink
I don’t want to wake up
I want to be in that place where you are
I want to spend eternity with you there
Lord, take me where she is now…

Friday, April 22, 2005

Falling Apart





Falling Apart
By: Jon
April 22, 2005
Coffee Bean, Tordesillas , Makati

Everything falling apart?
Friendships not helping enough?
Happiness seems light years away.
Fulfillment hard to compromise.

What is the reason for all these?
Wisdom in it cannot be comprehended.
Trying hard to satisfy my existence
Vaguely distinguishable the purpose I seek.

Pleasure, Fun and Love?
Completeness, excitement and adventure?
Souls meeting and conversing...
Importance of these I question and desire?

All of that washed away
Broken, seeking and trying to hold on
Soul in torment and perishing
A second chance unknowing and seem unattainable.

Friday, March 18, 2005

FRIENDS AND ANGELS


“Friends and Angels”
By: Jon
Mar 18, 2005 12:49 AM
My Flat, Makati








There are times in your life that you feel the world have played an unfair game on you. Moments where predicaments and hopelessness are dwelling in your head and in your heart. Times that you blame a person for breaking your precious heart or taking away that part of your life that you love so much. You ask yourself, how could I've let that happen to me? Or how could that person do such a thing that hurts me so much? Well sometimes really the worst thing that could hurt us most is the person that we love so dearly. Let's not forget all the external things that cause us irritation, frustration, depression and anger. May it be a jerk of a boss, an unfulfilling career, a bitch of a client or a customer that can pass for a jackass? There are a zillion lists to cause these, but I'd rather stop at that to prevent a headache.

But one thing for sure, there is always a “light” at the end of the tunnel. That light may not be in a form of an object or a written solution, but in the human form. Let me now have this chance to express my appreciation for having friends who compensate and turns over that dreaded feeling into something more cheerful and happy.

At the end of all those troubles, you have friends who uplift your sorrows and put a smile on your face. That's even an understatement, coz really they make you laugh that it hurts your face. Who said you cannot see “angels?” I think I've met them and they are my “friends.” I was told that angels guide you, protect you and make you smile. I am sure that my friends do the same.. So thank you God for bringing them into my life.

I may not have told you guys this, but you are making my life worthwhile. Easier that the pain of the troubles are becoming lesser. In fact, going away. I don't believe in coincidences. So for what this is worth? I know God has a very good reason for letting all of us meet…

Though we have our own shortcomings, I think it is just right, as our unique personalities complement each other. Reasons that we clicked? I think this is one of them..

Thursday, March 3, 2005

“Vacillations”
By: Jon
Mar 21, 2005 4:30 pm
Confusion, Makati City

Have you ever fallen in love and ended it? I think that is one of the most difficult parts of every person's life. Sad that a couple have to part ways, coz the relationship is not working out. Even if you are sure that you both still love each other. I'm sure you're going to say, “why not work it out?” Work it out because you still love each other?... Don't get me wrong, but what I'm trying to say is that ending the relationship because you've exhausted all possible ways and means to work it out. But you guys still ended hurting each other and failing to hold it together.

After realizing how bad the person is in your life or the other person doesn't love you that much anymore. You still vacillate thinking that you guys can still be together and live happily ever after. And so you'd do the stupidest thing in the world and come up to the person, swallowing your pride and all to ask that person to try it again. Romantic as that may sound, but after a number of moments, you'd say: “what the hell was I thinking?”

That is basically all right. Don't treat yourself bad coz you are not the only one doing it. A lot of people go through the same ordeal, especially those who have loved so deep and so strong.

I guess those people do that because they are in love with the thought of “Love?” Holding on to the essence of having someone, a partner, and a lover. Blinded by the fact that that someone is not the right one for them. Or probably it is because those people cannot handle the thought of being alone. They cannot enjoy life with just their self that they need to be with someone. Having a partner that will witness the life they have, as they cannot appreciate what they're capable of or seeing their own achievements. I think that's a wrong reason to enter into a relationship.

Well that's one side. Vacillations happen partly because we become obsessive to the habits we've built with that person. Our lives have suddenly reached a turning point that we feel lost in the world because of the “big” change. We cannot seem to move or do things without the other person. It is difficult but true. Habits are a very hard thing to break. So it takes a lot of courage and determination to move on and realize that that chapter of our life has concluded.

So the next time you feel this, make an extra effort to rethink. What was the reason why the relationship has ended? Try to re-live your life with that person and think through if it’s going to be a happy life given all the circumstances. I'm sure if that thinking doesn't succeed, you are entering into a delusional state. Where you think everything will work out just fine. Remember that is what's on your mind, and that is how you think. But it may not be the same with the other person. You don't control the situation; especially you cannot control the one you love. On how they'll act or how they'll think. Best thing you can do is accepting the fact that it ended. Be ready, and begin the new chapter of your life, which you have to take.

Love is such a great feeling. I think one of our purposes in this life is to have and share that. But given the bad and awful circumstances, “Love would never be enough.” There should be a compromise, understanding, respect, sharing and a common goal that let's you grow as a couple and as an individual...

Confusion and delusion leads to vacillations.. Try hard to see through reality and fantasy. Experience gives the best lessons in the world. It’s all right to hope, hoping that a person changes for the better and for your gain. But character takes time to mold. A person's stained character is difficult to bleach. And at worst, will be forever instilled with her/him. Be thankful should that stained character be positively changed. That will be the best consolation you can ever achieve. Not just for yourself but for the other person as well. Always remember what you've learned and gained. Because it will serve you right every time.

We are all hopeless romantics by heart but some things are really hopeless for the right reasons. Ingrain that in the heart and mind. Because once the heart and mind is in synch, that's the moment you should realize you are right...
“Vacillations”
By: Jon
Mar 21, 2005 4:30 pm
Confusion, Makati City

Have you ever fallen in love and ended it? I think that is one of the most difficult parts of every person's life. Sad that a couple have to part ways, coz the relationship is not working out. Even if you are sure that you both still love each other. I'm sure you're going to say, “why not work it out?” Work it out because you still love each other?... Don't get me wrong, but what I'm trying to say is that ending the relationship because you've exhausted all possible ways and means to work it out. But you guys still ended hurting each other and failing to hold it together.

After realizing how bad the person is in your life or the other person doesn't love you that much anymore. You still vacillate thinking that you guys can still be together and live happily ever after. And so you'd do the stupidest thing in the world and come up to the person, swallowing your pride and all to ask that person to try it again. Romantic as that may sound, but after a number of moments, you'd say: “what the hell was I thinking?”

That is basically all right. Don't treat yourself bad coz you are not the only one doing it. A lot of people go through the same ordeal, especially those who have loved so deep and so strong.

I guess those people do that because they are in love with the thought of “Love?” Holding on to the essence of having someone, a partner, and a lover. Blinded by the fact that that someone is not the right one for them. Or probably it is because those people cannot handle the thought of being alone. They cannot enjoy life with just their self that they need to be with someone. Having a partner that will witness the life they have, as they cannot appreciate what they're capable of or seeing their own achievements. I think that's a wrong reason to enter into a relationship.

Well that's one side. Vacillations happen partly because we become obsessive to the habits we've built with that person. Our lives have suddenly reached a turning point that we feel lost in the world because of the “big” change. We cannot seem to move or do things without the other person. It is difficult but true. Habits are a very hard thing to break. So it takes a lot of courage and determination to move on and realize that that chapter of our life has concluded.

So the next time you feel this, make an extra effort to rethink. What was the reason why the relationship has ended? Try to re-live your life with that person and think through if it’s going to be a happy life given all the circumstances. I'm sure if that thinking doesn't succeed, you are entering into a delusional state. Where you think everything will work out just fine. Remember that is what's on your mind, and that is how you think. But it may not be the same with the other person. You don't control the situation; especially you cannot control the one you love. On how they'll act or how they'll think. Best thing you can do is accepting the fact that it ended. Be ready, and begin the new chapter of your life, which you have to take.

Love is such a great feeling. I think one of our purposes in this life is to have and share that. But given the bad and awful circumstances, “Love would never be enough.” There should be a compromise, understanding, respect, sharing and a common goal that let's you grow as a couple and as an individual...

Confusion and delusion leads to vacillations.. Try hard to see through reality and fantasy. Experience gives the best lessons in the world. It’s all right to hope, hoping that a person changes for the better and for your gain. But character takes time to mold. A person's stained character is difficult to bleach. And at worst, will be forever instilled with her/him. Be thankful should that stained character be positively changed. That will be the best consolation you can ever achieve. Not just for yourself but for the other person as well. Always remember what you've learned and gained. Because it will serve you right every time.

We are all hopeless romantics by heart but some things are really hopeless for the right reasons. Ingrain that in the heart and mind. Because once the heart and mind is in synch, that's the moment you should realize you are right...