E + R = O

Event + Response = Outcome



Basically what this formula presents us is that in whatever (O)utcome we experience in life are the results of our (R )esponses to the (E)vents that are presented to us. may it be success or failure, wealth or poverty, health or illness, intimacy or estrangement, joy or frustration, negative or positive.

Sound simple enough? I have come to encounter this formula from a man that I admire, Mr. Jack Canfield and in a way simplified my way of looking at how we go through in life. It tells us that everything we experience today is the result of the choices and decisions we have made in the past.

So how do we respond to an unlikely, annoying, difficult, oppressing or maddening event that befalls you? In normal circumstances we’d complain, blame, fight, sulk or self-destruct. And eventually hating or harbor ill feelings toward the incident. So how de we avoid this catastrophes in our lives? The formula would lead us to assess our responses, simply watch our responses and change it to lead to the outcome that we want.

This formula merely teaches us to be responsible for our own lives, to change whatever we have control over. Change our thinking, change our communication, change what we imagine and see in our head, and change our behavior. Change the conditioned responses that we have built since our early years.

And so we have to give up Blaming, we have to give up Complaining because most often than not we blame and complain to the wrong person. If we look at it closely, we allowed that circumstance to effect in our lives. And there is no one to blame but ourselves.

We are responsible for our lives; we either create or allow everything to happen to us. Our actions or inactions give us the results of where we are now. Sometimes we do not choose to act because it could be very uncomfortable to us. We fear risks, inconvenience, loss of security, confrontations because it’s uncomfortable. But successful people face uncomfortable circumstances head on to achieve the outcomes that they want. Successful people don’t wait for disasters to happen and then blame something or someone else for the bad result.

Once we start to decide to act and choose how to respond, we have to keep in mind the result that we want in life. We have to focus on what is important to us and what would really matter at the end of the day. And when we do we begin to feel great, there is the fulfillment that we can make things happen and that we are in control. Life becomes much easier for us.

The bottom line is we are in charge of our lives. We are the one who is creating our lives. The lives we currently live are the results of our past actions and thoughts. We are in charge of our current thoughts and present feelings. We are in charge of what we say and what we do. We are in charge of what is going on in our minds. Our actions are under our control. To achieve the results that we want, all we have to do is act in ways that produces more of what we want.

Its that simple….

all blame is a waste of time. no matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.

--wayne dyer